I’ve been in a musing mode about punishment, which leads to considering consequences.

Because, after all, punishment is often a consequence of your actions.

I think one of the things that is a genuine sign of maturity is accepting that everything we do has consequences and learning to live with them.

It probably seems like consequences apply mostly to submissives, but it’s easy to forget that dominants have consequences, too, and sometimes our consequences directly effect not just one person.

It can be really difficult to deal with the consequences of your decisions when they turn out to have been bad ones, particularly when you are not the only one who pays the price.

Sometimes even if you’ve done your best, you can still screw up.  You miss anticipating something.  You underestimate the effect or weight of one thing, over estimate another.

On the other hand, maybe that’s why, or at least part of why, we end up on the top side, because we believe that if we’re the ones making the decisions, we can control the outcomes, control the consequences.

Because, clearly, we have superhuman powers and should be held to a higher standard than anyone else.

We talk a lot about how submissives feel guilty, but it’s also a fact of life that dominants, good ones, at least, feel guilty, too, and it’s as often irrational for us, I think, as for you.

I think it’s possible it’s a bit harder on us because we don’t talk about it.  It’s one of the things we keep to ourselves, because, after all, we’re superhuman.

Did I already mention that?

About MsConstanceExplains

Ms Constance has been actively involved in the BDSM/Leather community since the mid-1990’s. She is the Founder of the Louisville Munch as well as its hostess for ten years, from 1997 to 2007, and was christened as “Louisville’s First Lady” by her community. As a member of various BDSM/Leather organizations, she has been nominated for Pantheon Woman of the Year as well as regional awards, and has been nominated with her slave, drew, for Pantheon Couple of the Year. She serves as Special Events Director for the Great Lakes Leather Alliance. She produces the Bluegrass Leather Pride Contest, sending contestants to Great Lakes Leather Weekend, and was Presenters Committee Chair for Leather Leadership Conference 2010 Great Lakes/Ontario. She has produced and judged Leather events and contests, been instrumental in the organization and creation of various groups and clubs, advised and encouraged other communities and endeavors, and produced a performance by a BDSM comedian. Groups around the country use her writings in information and introductory packets, and she is an occasional columnist as well. She and slave drew hold the titles of Great Lakes Master and slave 2003.

Posted on September 25, 2012, in Uncategorized. Bookmark the permalink. 3 Comments.

  1. *grinning*

    You are something else Ms. Constance….i just love your musings…


  2. I’m laughing as I read this. Wolf and I talk frequently about ‘Cause and Effect’, because it is like some people never think of it, or would understand it if it hit them upside the head. And while you are superhuman, Wolf’s always right. …. right up until he’s wrong. 🙂

  3. On the other hand, you have to give us credit, right? Because if we WEREN’T always right and you guys STILL followed us around, well then, what does that say about you?

    Just saying. 🙂

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