Questions for Dominants 06

7.      In your most significant relationship(s), do you or did you have a contract?

Yes, I know, it’s question seven but blog post six.  I had a bad question, or one I’d already answered, but I would rather have the question numbers off than the titles off, because I’m OCD enough that it would be weird.

So, interestingly, I do not have a contract now, nor have I ever had a contract.

I say interestingly because I like rituals and protocols so much and I’m so detail-oriented, you’d think I’d love contracts.

I think contracts have always had two issues for me.  One is, I hate being confined by written rules, even my own.

The other issue is that I am SO obsessed with details that I feel compelled to document every single option.  You can do this in this circumstance but in this circumstance you can only do THIS, unless it’s late at night in which case it’s THIS and then, of course, if it’s north of the 39th Parallel then it’s THIS…

I would drive myself, an everyone else, crazy.

I know, I already do, but imagine how much worse it would be.

So, now that I’ve said I don’t have a contract I realize that’s actually a lie, I do have a contract with drew, because I married him, five years ago this month.

We had a very traditional ceremony, too, also perhaps unexpected.  We said “I will,” rather than “I do,” the ceremony straight out of the book of common prayer.

I can’t remember if I actually promised to obey, or if that forsaking all others part was there, either.  I did interpret a couple of the vows differently than most, I suppose.

About MsConstanceExplains

Ms Constance has been actively involved in the BDSM/Leather community since the mid-1990’s. She is the Founder of the Louisville Munch as well as its hostess for ten years, from 1997 to 2007, and was christened as “Louisville’s First Lady” by her community. As a member of various BDSM/Leather organizations, she has been nominated for Pantheon Woman of the Year as well as regional awards, and has been nominated with her slave, drew, for Pantheon Couple of the Year. She serves as Special Events Director for the Great Lakes Leather Alliance. She produces the Bluegrass Leather Pride Contest, sending contestants to Great Lakes Leather Weekend, and was Presenters Committee Chair for Leather Leadership Conference 2010 Great Lakes/Ontario. She has produced and judged Leather events and contests, been instrumental in the organization and creation of various groups and clubs, advised and encouraged other communities and endeavors, and produced a performance by a BDSM comedian. Groups around the country use her writings in information and introductory packets, and she is an occasional columnist as well. She and slave drew hold the titles of Great Lakes Master and slave 2003.

Posted on October 1, 2012, in Uncategorized. Bookmark the permalink. 2 Comments.

  1. I bet you didn’t promise to obey.

    And I’m wondering where the 39th Parallel is. I know where the 49th is. I might have to go google it. Inquiring minds want to know!

  2. I’m thinking you didn’t promise to obey either. Surely not. 🙂


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