Kink on Camera

I read an interesting post that caused me to think about how we’re presented on tv.

The blog post is here – from Pandora Blake’s blog.

She talks about watching a currently popular show, Castle, coming to the conclusion that the Nathan Fithian character is “sexually submissive.”

I suppose the thing that most interested me first in reading it was the fact that I’ve watched the show off and on and never picked it up.

I’m going to have to go back and re-watch.  I don’t know that I watched the early episodes and we all know that sometimes television shows box their characters in, make them more and more what they are as the show becomes more popular.

It did remind me, though, of how little there really is on television, and in popular media, that really represents – or interests, or speaks to me, or turns me on.

The only other mainstream show of which I am aware is the one we all know, the Lady Heather episodes of CSI.

I know the furries (or is it Furries?) don’t like their representation on the show, and I don’t believe the Adult Babies and Diaper Lovers liked their representation any better, but I thought we actually came out of it pretty well.

Ok, I know that Lady Heather’s story arc was not a happy one and it didn’t end well.

I know that the representations of us were not overly flattering, in some cases, ok, yeah, gotcha.

But that first episode?

Lady Heather was HOT.

Gil Grissom was INTERESTED.

There was CHEMISTRY.

You saw that they understood each other, and that there was something between them.

Usually on-screen romance bores me.

The women set up ridiculous and ludicrous devices to make men “prove” their devotion, love, whatever.

Men behave like especially immature frat boys, avoiding commitment and adult relationships as devotedly as they are blind in recognizing manipulation.

That one was hot.

The Secretary got it right, too, I always thought, but that was a male Top and female bottom and while I appreciated the inclusion and the correctness of the way in which they got it right, it didn’t do anything for ME.

So, I’m going to have to go back and watch Castle, aren’t I?

I could cope with the idea of Nathan Fithian as a sexual submissive.  Yes, I could cope with that quite nicely, in fact.

I believe I’m going to give that thought all the attention which I do believe it deserves.

About MsConstanceExplains

Ms Constance has been actively involved in the BDSM/Leather community since the mid-1990’s. She is the Founder of the Louisville Munch as well as its hostess for ten years, from 1997 to 2007, and was christened as “Louisville’s First Lady” by her community. As a member of various BDSM/Leather organizations, she has been nominated for Pantheon Woman of the Year as well as regional awards, and has been nominated with her slave, drew, for Pantheon Couple of the Year. She serves as Special Events Director for the Great Lakes Leather Alliance. She produces the Bluegrass Leather Pride Contest, sending contestants to Great Lakes Leather Weekend, and was Presenters Committee Chair for Leather Leadership Conference 2010 Great Lakes/Ontario. She has produced and judged Leather events and contests, been instrumental in the organization and creation of various groups and clubs, advised and encouraged other communities and endeavors, and produced a performance by a BDSM comedian. Groups around the country use her writings in information and introductory packets, and she is an occasional columnist as well. She and slave drew hold the titles of Great Lakes Master and slave 2003.

Posted on October 9, 2012, in Uncategorized. Bookmark the permalink. 6 Comments.

  1. The Secretary was one of the first movies Wolf and I watched that really helped me wrap my brain around the whole D/s paradigm. It is still one of my favorites. As for Castle, never watched it, Hmm….

    • The thing I thought the most interesting about The Secretary was that the part that it got right was that it is often harder for the top to accept their sadism and need to control than it is for the bottom to accept their taste for pain and their love of control. Most vanilla things get that backwards, and this one didn’t.,

      It also had some NICE touches, like him teaching her exactly how he wanted the bed made.

      Someone involved with the screenplay got it, and I swear, when they do a kinky movie, is there some secret contract that James Spader should be involved? I’m ok with it, mind you, just curious.

      • Wolf and I discussed that bit about the Top having issues. Especially as he’d fire his secretaries when things got too close. His ex-wife was an interesting piece of work too.

        I think it was the producer that had ‘a clue’, when it comes to D/s. As for James Spader and kinky films, I hadn’t thought about it until you mentioned it and now I’m giggling.

  2. I’ll just mention White Castles and Sex, Lies and Videotape to illustrate my point.

    Of course, *I’d* peg him as a bottom – no pun intended – but that’s probably because there’s some wishful thinking in the works there, too.

  3. I watch Castle quite a bit, and never though the Castle character seemed sexually submissive at all. Not dominant really either, just regular in the middle guy.

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