Kink First – My First Threesome

What do you think it says about me as a person that I can’t really quite remember which one my first threesome was?

I *think* it was a sort of sex-and-kink lite experience with my submissive at the time, Gene, and a woman in the community way back when.

I remember we tied him to my bed naked and rather rolled around on him, doing various kind and unkind things to him, as whim and location dictated.

He seemed to enjoy quite a bit.

But there wasn’t any real sex involved, as there wasn’t any real kink involved.  Neither fish nor fowl, as it were.

I don’t think I’ve ever had a threesome with two men, which is, I suppose, rather surprising, all things considered.  Never happened that it happens.

I had a threesome with two of my married friends, J and m.  We had flirted with it for months and it was one of those things that you’d think, on the face of it, would work great, and was, as it turned out, a monumentally bad idea.

It took us a long time, a year and a half or more, with all three of us genuinely working at it, to lose that weird awkwardness that develops after a really uncomfortable sexual encounter.

We got over it, but none of us ever mention it, even in passing, or joking, which is probably a better sign than anything else of how bad an idea it was.

I set up, I swear to God, by accident a threesome with slave drew years ago by inviting a female friend, D, to spend the night and not realizing until later that what I had said had sounded TOTALLY different than what I meant to say.

Not that I meant to say, “I *never* want to have a threesome with you,” but I meant to say, “If you want to come over for the munch, you can sleep at my house.”

It was probably the most successful threesome I ever had, and I don’t consider that it was overly successful, but it wasn’t bad or traumatic to any of us.

D was cute, and smart, and funny, and had been switch-y and bottom-y before she found role, and I’d topped her in the past more than a couple times.

And so it probably went on for a few months, not really often, but often enough it was kind of ongoing for a little bit.

We didn’t really talk about it, that I remember, while it was going on, and I know we’ve not since.  No issues, no weirdness, it just wasn’t that big of a deal.  It was a relationship, not a Relationship, and we all got that going in.

Drama-free, basically.

It finally died a slow and painless death.  I think she started seeing someone and she spent more time with him and less time in Louisville or maybe there was a schedule change.

I forget, which also says how low-drama it was.

I’m trying to remember if there are any other threesomes in there…

I’ve had lots of threesomes that are more kink threesomes than anything else.  My friend Ms Tammy and I have played together with a single submissive more than I can remember, and sometimes it’s much more sexual for the submissive, but it’s mostly in a D/s format than a sexual format, if that makes sense.

I had a six-some once, too, but I have to say that group sex really isn’t my thing.  Too much to keep track of for me, I think.

I don’t have to count when people in the room were having sex, if I wasn’t involved, right?

Right?

About MsConstanceExplains

Ms Constance has been actively involved in the BDSM/Leather community since the mid-1990’s. She is the Founder of the Louisville Munch as well as its hostess for ten years, from 1997 to 2007, and was christened as “Louisville’s First Lady” by her community. As a member of various BDSM/Leather organizations, she has been nominated for Pantheon Woman of the Year as well as regional awards, and has been nominated with her slave, drew, for Pantheon Couple of the Year. She serves as Special Events Director for the Great Lakes Leather Alliance. She produces the Bluegrass Leather Pride Contest, sending contestants to Great Lakes Leather Weekend, and was Presenters Committee Chair for Leather Leadership Conference 2010 Great Lakes/Ontario. She has produced and judged Leather events and contests, been instrumental in the organization and creation of various groups and clubs, advised and encouraged other communities and endeavors, and produced a performance by a BDSM comedian. Groups around the country use her writings in information and introductory packets, and she is an occasional columnist as well. She and slave drew hold the titles of Great Lakes Master and slave 2003.

Posted on November 13, 2012, in Kink and BDSM, Kink Community, Kinky Sex and tagged , , . Bookmark the permalink. 13 Comments.

  1. LOL! No, I don’t think you have to count it except as voyeurism. 🙂

    Your comment about never having two men made me think… I’ve never had one either although I’ve been in a foursome with some interesting dynamics.

  2. Lol… right, Ms. Constance. It only “counts” if you’re doing something too. But then, who’s counting?

    aisha

  3. 🙂
    Well, if you go by that last label there, I’ve not had a three-some either. In high school I was heavily going steady with a guy, who was the neighbor of my girlfriend. She knew about he and I…He was clueless. 🙂 I was a wicked girl, even then. I always had way better sex with her than with him…

    Master has set up, twice now, these… “encounters”…with Sir P…but He (Master) is not a participant. He is there, taking pix, talking with Sir P, but not sexually involved.When He beat me a bit, Sir P was sitting out, recovering. So…I’m not sure if that is a threesome by pure definition…at no time were both of them using me. If Guest Dom B had shown up, it would have been…and I’m still not sure if I’m glad or sad that it didn’t come to be…then again, I am a wicked little slut!

    Great stories Ms. Constance. 🙂

    nilla

    • I always think that most vanilla people must see sex as much more black and white than we kinky folks do. I feel fairly certain that they would count it as a threesome, and yet, I don’t and you really don’t, either, because it wasn’t all happening at the SAME time with the SAME people.

      They’re so literal, don’t you think?

      • I swear to the Powers that be, Ms.Constance, your replies to everyone on this particular post were as amusing as the post itself. I’ve read them twice now, and laughed aloud several times. You know I adore you, right? 🙂

        nilla, grinning widely!

      • I have always said that if you can’t do anything else, you should at least be entertaining. I always endeavor to entertain. I’m glad to know I succeed.

        But that immorality trifecta, now THAT was good…

  4. I had a monumentally bad 5-some one time. Your description of your monumentally bad 3-some reminded me of it. It took years before we were fairly comfortable with each other again and there’s no way it could ever be joked about. Sooooo not!

  5. My first threesome was last Thursday :). Such a newb! We had several 4-somes before that, although none have involved p (or other items) in v sex.

    The threesome did involve a strap-on and OMG yumsies. Hopefully to be repeated soon. We have a date.

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