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I post so much about tea that I thought I would expound on it because, well, because I can.
I did a tea portion of a class before a formal Leather dinner and it was, apparently, a revelation to a lot of people, so maybe it will have some value here, too.
Tea is a lovely beverage. It is the second most consumed drink in the world, after water.
Experts say tea provides as many disease-fighting flavonoids antioxidants as fruits or vegetables.
Antioxidants are naturally occurring chemicals that promote a healthier immune system.
White tea contains the most antioxidants, followed by green tea. Black tea undergoes a fermentation process, which severely decreases its antioxidant content (though it still has more than coffee).
Additionally, tea contains a lot of other natural compounds that promote health, including vitamins C, D and K, amino acids and fluoride.
Tea has a long history of ceremony around it. According to the records, tea was first introduced to Japan from China in the early ninth century by Japanese Buddhist monks.
According to the evolution of the tea ceremony, which you can read in its entirety here, “Powdered tea is used only in the Japanese tea ceremony (chanoyu), which was created in the fifteenth and sixteenth centuries in the midst of Japan’s samurai-dominated medieval age (1185-1568). It is green powdered tea, which is scooped into a rather large bowl and whipped into a frothy, bitter-tasting drink with hot water poured from a kettle.”
While coffee has some of the same health benefits as tea, most health professionals agree that more than two or three cups a day is excessive and is bad for your teeth, reduces the flow of blood to your heart, can cause headaches, indigestion and constipation, and also increases blood pressure. Coffee has even been linked to greater frequencies of sterility in men.
So, in general, tea is better for you than coffee.
My information is from here, but basically all tea comes from the Camellia sinensis plant. What makes each tea different is the way it has been processed.
Tea can be classified according to the amount of processing that goes into the final product.
Black tea goes through the most processing, and is actually fermented.
White tea leaves are the youngest and most tender leaves that are much more rare because they are only harvested at certain times of the year. After harvest, the young tea leaves are fired immediately before any oxidation can occur which results sweeter and naturally mild product.
Because of the use of only select leaves, white tea tends to be more expensive than other tea.
Green tea is produced by preventing oxidation from occurring. The harvested leaves are initially steamed, which stops the fermentation process, before being fired. As it has been for centuries, green tea is the beverage of choice in many Asian countries.
Studies indicate that green tea may be more healthful than other varieties as well.
Let me make a statement that for me, herbal tea is not tea.
It is, in fact, an anathema and an abomination. Ick.
I like flavored teas, but I’m particular about the flavor. No mint. No apple. No pumpkin. No chocolate.
I’m lukewarm about vanilla.
I like berry flavors, though not usually strawberry. I like citrus, but I prefer grapefruit over orange.
Earl Gray is disgusting. Might as well pour perfume into a perfectly good pot of tea.
Decent tea is worth the price.
If you don’t drink tea but you’d like to have tea around for others, buy a tin of decent English or Irish breakfast tea.
Notice I said tin, not box.
Tea gets stale much faster in a cardboard box, or a paper envelope.
I am quite fond of The Republic of Tea brand. They run about $10-$14 for 50 tea bags or the equivalent of loose tea. My longstanding favorite tea is their Blackberry Sage, which I have been drinking for, literally, more than 20 years, and a new variety which I’m also liking a LOT, a Rose Petal tea, with black tea blended with rose petals and buds.
It’s sold in a tin with a tight-fitting lid, meaning that the tea will stay fresh, even if you don’t use it for a long time, and it’s a good quality tea.
If you like coffee, you know that if you come to my house and I offer you coffee, you know that if I pull out an old bag of cheap coffee from the cupboard, one that’s not been sealed or stored in the freezer, or, worse yet, a jar of cheap instant coffee, you’re probably not going to get a decent cup of coffee.
You’ll likely say thanks but no thanks, and have a soda or a glass of water.
If you pull a half open box of Lipton tea from the cupboard, boil a mug of water in the microwave and dump the tea bag in it, then bring it to me with nowhere to get rid of the tea bag, I’m not going to get a very good cup of tea, either.
Water has to be boiled over a fire. I don’t know what happens to water when you boil it in a microwave, but it does something. It makes the water flat or something. It’s disgusting.
I *love* an electric tea kettle. I use this one, and yes, I know it’s expensive. It’s worth every cent.
We use the tea kettle on average at least three or four times a day. It boils water fast and, in my view, the best thing is, it turns itself off and I don’t have to think abut it again. If you let water boil and boil, it loses oxygen and the tea isn’t nearly as good. Like in a microwave, it tastes flat.
I boil water in the tea pot for pasta, too. It’s faster and more efficient, and you KNOW slave drew is all about efficient use of energy.
If you wouldn’t drink your water in a glass with ice, then you probably don’t want to drink it boiled for tea, either. I wouldn’t, anyway.
Louisville is very lucky, we have very good water, I don’t bother to filter it, it tastes fine straight from the tap. If yours doesn’t, then you need to at least use water that’s gone through a filter.
Technically, green and white teas should be steeped with water JUST before it boils. I do use fully boiled for all of it, unless I happen to be standing by the tea kettle.
Tea made in a mug is usually too strong. We have three teapots, because we might have a pot of black tea and a pot of green all going at once. One teabag makes one pot of tea.
Before you pour the boiling water in the teapot, you should rinse it out with warm water, so it’s not a cold pot. You shouldn’t make tea in a silver or metal pot, because it will taste metallic.
Black tea is usually steeped for three to four minutes, green and white for one or two, but I’m really not a purist about that. It depends on how strong the tea is.
If you’re using a tea bag, you’re supposed to take it out after that length of time, though I don’t bother most of the time. If it’s very strong, or very black, I do take it out because it gets bitter.
If you’re a real tea drinker, too, you probably have a tea cozy, to put over the tea pot to keep it warm.
We have two. One for black, one for green.
We do a lot of loose tea, too, and because of that, we do a lot of blends. We have three or four tea infusers, the little cup of plastic and mesh that fits down in the pot to hold the tea leaves. We use about a teaspoon of tea for a pot, maybe a bit more, depending.
I don’t like small cups, I like a big mug, People who like big mugs tend to not want to refill it as often, people who like small cups really often hate cold tea.
I really dislike coffee, always have. I have my own travel mugs for tea that are not EVER used for coffee, ever, ever, ever. Once you’ve put coffee in a travel cup, it always smells of coffee.
I can’t make tea in a hotel room using the coffee pot, either, the water tastes disgusting.
I’ve been known to take a tea kettle with me to a hotel room.
I will warm a cup of tea in the microwave, but I don’t boil it. I prefer not to have to, but I won’t turn my nose up at it.
Now, have I totally intimidated you so you’ll never make me tea?
I read an interesting blog by jade, on Queen Bees and service. I recommend you read it, here, it’s really an interesting entry.
I think that often one of the things that’s hard for people to understand about being a dominant is that being served is not always as easy as it might seem.
For one thing, being served well requires training someone in how you like to be served and that means, then, that you put up with less than ideal service for a while, because no one is going to get it right the first time.
I often use tea as an example in explaining service.
I drink a lot of hot tea. I think I’ve had four or five pots of tea today. The morning started with a couple pots of Blackberry Sage tea, I had Rose Petal Tea in the afternoon, then a pot of a new tea I had ordered, a green pear flavor, and then a pot of my favorite green tea at the moment, a pink grapefruit.
So, as you can tell, I take my tea fairly seriously. Only one was a tea bag kind of tea, the other was all loose tea.
If you were going to serve me for a day or two, you’d need to know how to make tea. Not only that, you’d need to make tea the way I like it, and even slave drew, who also drinks tea and knows what teas I like and how I like my teas, and once in a while I get a tea that isn’t really what I wanted at that particular time. It’s unavoidable.
For you to get my tea right, you have to know if I want black tea or green tea or white tea, do I want it flavored or plain, how strong do I want it?
Black tea and green tea and white tea all have different kinds of brewing times.
I like mugs, largish ones, not small cups.
You can’t boil water in a microwave and make tea with it. I don’t’ know why, but it’s disgusting.
So, if you’re going to make me tea, most likely, I’m going to have quite a few pots of tea that aren’t exactly what I want.
To get good service, too, I have to be able to articulate both what I want and how I want it, and that’s not always easy.
In addition, I have to KNOW what it is I want.
That’s harder than you might think.
I know a lot of dominants who seem to expect submissives to read their minds, when, it seems, there’s not much there to read.
You also have to be willing to make a choice, to pick one thing over another.
You know those people, you say to them, What kind of pie would you like, we have pumpkin, apple and pecan, and they say, Oh, it doesn’t matter. Whatever.
My, how helpful.
I’ve told you I have all three. It clearly makes no difference to ME what you have, if it did, I’d not have offered them all.
Or the person to who you say, would you rather have a soft drink or wine, and they say, Yes.
Again, not helpful.
As a dominant, you have to know your own mind, and be willing to state it.
It can be hard, too, to not feel guilty or as if you’re taking advantage of someone.
I know, I know, it’s the dynamic, you like serving, we get that.
When we’re both sitting down, sometimes it feels pretty selfish to say, “I’d like more tea.”
If it’s something less pleasant – getting up in the night to let the dogs out, for instance – it can feel pretty selfish to stay snug and warm in bed while someone else gets up to do that.
During our Fringe Board meetings, we often meet at my house and eat dinner during the meeting. Last time I started to take one of the plates to the kitchen.
I was basically not allowed to, because jacki took it from me, with her usual, Really, Ma’am? Really?
Sometimes that’s odd for me, too – it’s my house, I’m the host, I should take care of people, it’s odd to me to sit down and be waited on.
I know, I know, it’s hard to believe.
I told you being served is not the easiest thing.